BPAC

Feelings | EQ



Giving, generosity, compassion ('passion with'), interested and in love, well-loved.

Not hidden; revealed.
Not hard to get to; easy to access.
Not elaborate; simple.
Not dirty, broken, bent.
Clean. Integral (one), straight.
Easy to understand, starting to practice.

DEPROGRAMMING
Cults
Brainwashing
Splitting
Alters
MPD

Happiness, Contentment

Love, Attention, Appreciation

Wisdom, Knowledge

Freedom

Passion, Purpose

Enthusiasm, Effort

Hope, Cheerfulness, Optimism

Belief, Understanding, View

(Boredom, due to lack of planning, purpose)

(Frustration, due to attachment, expectation)

(Irritation, Frustration, Disappointment, attachment, expectation, due to view and self, lack of equanimity)

(Impatience, due to lack of attachment, self)

Capacity, ability, accepting limits

(doubt, due lack of understanding, view)

(Worry, due to lack of controlled mind, expetation)

(Blame, due to mistaken view, other is self)

Encouragement

(Anger, riding on top of other errors, such as frustration, self, disappointment, lack of discipline, equanimity)

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE (EQ)

  1. Self Awareness
  2. Self Image
  3. Boundaries
  4. Negotiation
  5. Social Skills
  6. Relationship

EMOTIONAL WELLNESS

Big Red, Black beauty, Lion King, Lassie
animal and pet stories

Mental well-being
Emotional Success
Popularity
Fear, Manipulation
Lies
Anger
Love
Sex
Babies
Family
Negotiation
Setting Limits
Saying No
Self-Respect
Self-Worth

Social Skills
Elementary Financial skills

GOOD - promote, model, demonstration, give examples

BAD - how to avoid, recognize, isolate, deal with wisely, give examples

RELATIONSHIPS
Family relationships (Peppa Pig and her Dad, Mommy and Daddy Kiss)
Close relationships, friendship
Loving kindness, Patience
Communication, Connection
Empathy, Understanding others' viewpoint

EMOTIONS
Dealing with Loss (divorce, death of a pet, death in the family)
Coping with Pain (Boo Boo, or worse, hospitalization)
Unfair Situation

Kids like it when an adult is confused, and a little kid has to explain it to them

Mr Roger's Neighborhood shows a good pathway to re-program towards goodness, Family Values, using child psychology and hypnotherapy.

Milton Erickson, Bandler & Grinder, Mind Programming
The Giant Within - Tony Robbins
How to Win Friends & Influence People - Dale Carnegie
Think and Grow Rich - Napoleon Hill

Kids Issues

Diary of a Wimpy Kid EQ, IQ, celebrities, trivia, facts, history
- fear, self-worth, self-image, confidence. (quiz)
- dating, sex, pregnancy, family (quiz)
- driving test, accidents, rules of the road. Quiz

- Kid's Rights, Empowerment

VALIDATION
appreciation
love
attention
Giving love, acceptance, trust, modeling, examples, demonstration, wholesome goodness, patience, Give a lot of compliments in the video.
Make emotionally supportive statements
Sharing is Caring

PERSONAL POWER
Confidence, Self-respect, Self-worth, Honor

Self-empowerment
self-image
Weight issues, body image
Pride, Ego, Puffed Up, Self-centered, Vanity
Taking responsibility for ourselves, and our actions
Consequences of actions (Karma).
Blaming other people, Avoidance
self-defense
Bravery
bullying
setting limits (co-dependency) saying no, politely

Anger Management

If you find yourself getting into frequent arguments over nothing, you may need to work on your anger-management skills. Big fights often happen over something small, like dishes left unwashed, piling up in the sink, but there's usually a bigger issue burning beneath the blow-up. Before your emotions take control, ask yourself, "What am I really angry about?" Identifying the real source of frustration will help you communicate your feelings, and work towards a resolution. Once you're able to recognize early warning signs, and anticipate your trigger-points, you can take action. First of all, take a deep breath, and better still, take several more deep breaths. Deep, slow breathing helps counter rising tension levels. Slowly count to ten. Then take a final deep breath again, before going back to your argument with a calmer mind.

It's okay to be upset at someone, but if you don't fight fair, the relationship will quickly break down. Make the relationship your priority, not winning the argument. Be respectful of your partner's viewpoint. Rather than looking to the past and assigning blame, focus on what you can do in the present to solve the problem. Conflicts can be draining, so consider whether the issue is really worth all that time and energy you're putting in. Be willing to forgive, and realize that resolving conflict is pretty much impossible if you're simply unwilling or unable to forgive. If that's the case, know when to let something go, and agree to disagree. It takes two people to keep an argument going, and while you can't control anger directly, you sure can control how you respond to it. Set clear boundaries about what you will and will not tolerate, and stick to your limits.

Romantic Love & Relationships

Men in love show more activity in the visual part of the brain, while women in love show more activity in the part of the brain that governs memory. Biological scientists speculate that men have to size up a woman visually to see how well she may bear babies, while women have to observe and remember aspects of man's behavior to determine if he would be an adequate provider. Men and women are biologically wired to express love in different ways. Women often feel loved when talking face to face with their partner, while men often feel closer to their partners when they work, play, or talk side by side. In an experiment, strangers of the opposite sex were together for 90 minutes where they talked about intimate details of their lives, and stared into each other's eyes. Many felt a deep attraction for each other, and two couples married within six months. The longer and more deliberate a courtship, the better the prospects for a long marriage. On the other hand, people who have intense romances are more likely to divorce after a few years.

Romantic love typically lasts just over one calendar year, perhaps because the brain cannot maintain a state of romantic bliss. As romantic love dwindles, a more stable love sets in. To remain in love for a lifetime, therapists advise couples to listen actively, ask questions about feelings, and stay physically fit. Men are more likely to be flexible in their romantic choices, but when they want to marry and have kids, they become pickier about basic qualities.

If a man meets a woman in a dangerous situation, such as on a trembling bridge, he is more likely to fall in love with her than if he met her in a normal setting, such as in an office. Girls are more likely to fall in love if they are looking for adventure, craving to leave home, are lonely, displaced in a foreign country, or passing into a new stage of life. Women around the world are more likely to fall in love with partners with ambition, education, wealth, respect, status, and a sense of humor. Women also prefer distinctive cheekbones and a strong jawbone, which are linked to testosterone levels.